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Remember those notes from back in the day? #nostalgia

I wasn’t gonna write about this at first but then I got dared, so…..

I’ve written before about having a crush, and even going out on a date with my Twitter crush, but I’ve never talked about being on the other side. To be honest, it’s been a minute since someone had a crush on me, at least a crush that I knew about. Last year one of my Twitter followers had a crush on me, and he wouldn’t tell me for the longest time. Instead he’d ask me questions & leave messages in my Formspring. Eventually he revealed his feelings, but also that he felt he wasn’t “ready” to deal with me quite yet, so I left it there.

The new crush is also from Twitter…what started from a convo about a shared love of Lucky Number Slevin morphed into the beginning of a new friendship. We’ve talked about a lot of things & so far he seems like a nice guy. I’m a little hesitant to dive in, I’m moreso interested in developing a friendship first. But it is very nice to be told nice things & have someone in your life that is really into you & not afraid to say it. 

It’s nice to be liked, desired, appreciated & admired. 🙂


The Internet, and connecting with people on it, has been apart of my life since the days of IRC and AOL chat rooms. In college, I discovered message boards, and the communities that resided within them. For the uninitiated, a message board is an environment where people can converse through posted messages. Many are organized around a particular theme – there’s a message board community for every topic under the sun, and even some communities that are solely for people to connect with each other.

My first message board experiences were as a silent reader – this was in my non-Greek days & I would lurk on a couple of Greek message boards, reading & soaking up information. Once I was able, I registered & dove right into the conversations. Over the years, I joined other message boards, including a gossip board, a couple of hair boards, and even a few “let’s just talk to each other” boards.

Every board is different, but one thing that always happens is the connection between members. Spend some time on a board, posting & reading, and eventually you’ll make some e-friends. Many people have been on the same boards for years, so inevitable for people to meet offline either one-on-one or at a meet-and-greet (MAG). At the very least, folks friend each other on FB, share emails and/or call/text each other. While friendships are made, conflict is also the norm. For every friend you made on a message board, you also found a font you couldn’t stand.

I’ve noticed that since I’ve been on Twitter, and since its explosion in popularity, my message board use has dwindled to virtually nothing. I used to be on message boards all day, everyday – talking, laughing, etc. It was a welcome diversion to the monotony of my day, and kept me entertained. We’d discuss everything, from mundane topics like what’s for dinner to the latest political controversy. Ladies shared beauty tips and men praised the latest cover of King magazine. And of course there would be those board-wide conflicts, with people instigating & laughing at all the drama.

Now, the antics of Twitter keeps me entertained.

It used to be that you had to invite your friends to a message board & encourage them to post, to get new blood on a site. If you didn’t like someone’s font or had beef, you either had to put them on ignore or leave the board entirely. With Twitter, interactions with new people occur quickly, thanks to retweets (RT’s), random conversations, trending topics (TT’s) and suggestions on who to follow. Somebody getting on your nerves? Unfollowing & blocking are quick & easy to do. Don’t want to unfollow them completely? Put them on mute for a while, thanks to several third-party services.

In a lot of ways Twitter functions like a message board, but in warp-speed. It’s constantly moving, even at 2AM. Everyone can participate in topics & discussions, thanks to trending topics (TT’s) and retweets. Information, ideas & opinions are shared so much faster, and are able to reach a much broader audience. And of course, people are able to develop connections on Twitter just like they were able to do on message boards. Many of my message boards friends are people who I chat with often on Twitter, and I’ve made connections with new people as well. Unlike a message board, Twitter isn’t insular – there are millions (if not billions) of people using it, with new members everyday. You can always find someone tweeting & talking about something interesting at any time of day or night.

Now that I’m a Twitter junkie, I’ve cut my message board time down considerably. I still lurk on a couple, but the entertainment value is no longer there. But I do think back to the years I spent as an active message board participant, and I appreciate that it allowed me to connect with some amazing people & make some great friends.

Were/are you a message board member? What communities did you post on? How do you think Twitter has affected the use of message boards?

I’m not having a good day.

I’m actually hella annoyed. Its been a long week. I hate my job. So any little thing is liable to set me off. So yes, this is a rant post #dealwithit.

Five Things That Annoy Jubi

*Meetings that go off topic or that I didn’t need to attend in the first place – *sigh* this happens to me all the damn time at work. I have a daily meeting that I have to attend, and at least 3 days out of 5, the agenda isn’t followed and people in the meeting start discussing topics that really should be discussed off-line. This is a meeting that combines various functions/departments, and so when folks start going off-topic & off-agenda, it’s a waste of time for a lot of folks, especially Jubi. Listen ppl, yall may love being at work all day & night & talking about irrelevant topics, but I don’t. Either stay on topic or let me report what I need to report so I can go do something I actually need to do like read blogs & screw around on Twitter run tests & write reports.

*People who read BBM messages and don’t respond – For those who aren’t on #teamblackberry, BBM is Blackberry Messenger, essentially an IM service between Blackberry users. The beauty of this program is that is displays a little “D” when your message is delivered to the recipient’s phone, and a little “R” when the recipient reads your message. So basically, you can know when someone saw your message & is just ignoring you. Now…sometimes that’s not the case, but generally? Yeah it is. If you have time to read my BBM message, especially when I asked a time-sensitive question, then you should have time to dash off a quick response, even it’s just a “let me hit you back in a min, I’m busy”. Ignoring me just makes me wanna delete you from my BBM permanently.

*People on that stupid #teamfollowback on Twitter – sorry folks, I’m not gonna follow you just cause you follow me. There’s a reason why my “followers” list is 3X bigger than my “following” list. If you don’t have anything witty/clever/interesting/etc to say, I’m not gonna follow you. If you don’t ever interact with me, I’m not gonna follow you. Following people & begging them to follow you back is wack & lame. Get over it.

* The people who live in the apartment above me – I swear these folks are either 500 pounds or are actually elephants, because they STOMP every single time they walk. They are the heaviest walkers ever. Like who does that? Especially when they live in an apartment? Don’t you know the person below you can hear all that? Ugh. Granted, its better than the family who lived below me in my old apartment (those little badass kids used to drive me crazy) but all the heavy ass walking is still annoying.

*The chick who parks next to my car in the garage – So I park in the underground garage in my building (best thing ever btw, especially this winter) and the chick who parks next to me can’t park to save her life. So the way its set up, on my right is a pillar & on the left is the chick’s parking space; I’m on her right & on her left is a pillar & also some open space because of the way the garage is designed. Basically I’m sandwiched between two cars & a pillar, while the chick on my left only has my car to deal with, & the pillar on her side, there’s no car on her left. So why does this yamp park directly on the line between our two spaces???? She has all this extra room on the driver’s side of her car, yet she never moves her car over! So I’m forced to park as close to the pillar as possible, and I always end up dinging her passenger side door when I try to get out of my car. Apparently she’s fine with all the dings I’m putting in her door cause she won’t park any better. I need her learn how to park, move out, or move her spot in the garage.

* Honorable mention: People who give unsolicited advice – If I didn’t ASK for your opinion on MY situation, then why are you giving it? STFU & mind your biz. Ugh. What’s even worse than unsolicited advice, is unsolicited advice that 1) doesn’t actually help or 2) is super generic or 3) is one of those things that sounds great but is impossible to do. Yeah….miss me with that.

Typing all that just made me feel a little bit better. I still feel some kinda way tho, but that’s another post for another day.

What annoys you? Let me know!

Received some feedback that got me thinking.

I received the following:

@Jubilance1922 You attract and love drama and I can’t help but read your tweets. *Hangs Head In Shame* :).

@Jubilance1922 yes it “seems” that way. The substance of your tweets have changed over the past year. Then again it is only my perception.

After I got over the initial shock, I pressed the person for more info privately. The answer? Too much focus on negativity & drama, too little on the fabulousness of Jubilance & her journey through life.

 Introspection tells me that’s true. If you read my timeline you’d probably get a completely different view of me than if you read my blog, or knew me IRL. My blog is a space to share snapshots of my life, my viewpoint, my journey. I’ve swung between periods of transparency & censorship, when it comes to how much of my life & my journey I’m willing to share. At this point the pendulum has swung back into the “transparent” realm. My Twitter account has morphed into a place where I vent & tend to say the first thing that comes to mind. I don’t give potential tweets the same level of thought & scrutiny that I do blog posts.

Just reading my tweets, its apparent that I have some conflict in my life currently. Enough conflict to make me extremely upset, hence the venting via Twitter. I wouldn’t say that I love it & the accompanying drama though. I’d much rather avoid it altogether, but my desire to not allow others to disrespect me, especially in a public forum, trumps my desire for a drama-free life & prevents me from simply letting it go.

I have noticed a  level of negativity within myself, which has manifested in areas of my life. I do not like or enjoy sending out negativity in the Universe – I know that what I put out is what I will receive back. As an imperfect human, I am always a work in progress. My goal is to be more mindful  of myself & the energy I emit to others, and to not allow the negativity of others to impact me. Will I ever be 100% successful at this? Probably not. But I will make my best attempts anyway.

LK made me join a few months ago, but I just started really getting into it.

Now I’m kinda obsessed.

I like exploring and finding new people to follow.

Interesting to see the different ways people twit…some are very stream-of-conciousness, others are purely informational, some are personal, etc. Right now I’m just twitting whatever I feel at that particular moment.

Anybody got any Twitter tips for me?


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