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Time to start packing...

I started blogging here: Confessions of a Grad School Slave

I moved over here when my grad school blog didn’t fit anymore: Searching For Satisfaction

Then I did the WordPress migration: Black Girl Unlost

And now I’m excited to announce that I’m taking the next step – moving Black Girl Unlost to its own domain!

I am super duper psyched for this move. I didn’t know I could do it, but I made it happen and I can’t wait for you to join me on the new site.

#shoutout to my hosting company – Versatile Media Group! Much thanks to @jasonlanderson for all the help & support in making this dream of mine happen.

Need hosting, website design, banners, etc? Please check out Versatile Media Group & tell them Jubilance sent you 🙂

Be on the lookout for the official launch this week!


You’re a personal blogger. You write about your life & the people in it.

Someone in your life says they don’t want to be in your blog at all – no name, no initials, not even allusions to convos or things you’ve done together.

This person has a pretty big role in your life & it may get bigger.

What do you do? How do you write about what’s going on in your life while still respecting your friend’s wishes?

Sometimes I think moving my blog over to WordPress was the worst thing I’ve ever done with it.

When I was on Blogger, I wasn’t really concerned with site stats, or hits, or even how many comments I got. I could just write & be carefree. I wrote when I felt like it, when I hd something to share or say, when I felt inspired. Sometimes I wrote everyday, and then I would go months & then come back when I felt like it.

Since I’ve had the blog on WordPress, I’ve been so wrapped up in the “site stats” link on my dashboard. Its become like an obsession. I can see exactly how many people stop by, where they came from, what they clicked on, what they read, etc. And its drives me nuts. Part of it is because I feel like a failure – I’ve been writing for a while & yet I get no love. Part of it is because I feel like there are blogs that aren’t as good who write crap yet they get tons of groupies folks hitting their posts everyday. Mostly I just feel like I’m way to wrapped up in what’s going on with my blog, specifically with who isn’t reading it & why.

I know blogging isn’t a competition…but I still feel like a failure at it, solely because of who or who doesn’t read. If I wanted to talk to myself I’d just solely write in  my journal. Its disheartening to put time & energy into something & to have no one appreciate it or give you feedback.

I need to do better. I need to not care so much. It was so much easier when I didn’t care. I wanna go back to being carefree with the blog, & not being so caught up in it.

I started this iteration of the blog way back in 2007. Last year I transitioned from Blogger to And now I’m ready to make another change to the blog.

In January 2011 I’m moving Searching For Satisfaction to its own domain & hosting my site via a shared server. The time has come for me to take this blog off a hosted blogging platform like Blogger or, and really start making it what I want it to be.

I want to see this space transition to a destination for intelligent thought-provoking discussion. We gon be grown & talk about grown folks stuff, but still keep it classy. And I’ll continue to discuss what’s going on in my world, as well as give my thoughts on whatever random topics or events catch my eye. I want it to be a community where folks can interact & share their views & learn something new from like-minded folks.

I hope that everyone who has been reading so far continues along with me as I & Searching For Satisfaction transitions to the next phase. Thanks for reading!

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Ever wanted to get into the mind of a young, single, professional Black woman? Well here's your chance. Travel with me on this journey called life as I try to find the elusive state of satisfaction...I promise, it'll be a fun time....
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