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Guest Post: Speed Dating From A Man’s Perspective

Posted on: March 3, 2011

My friend MC regaled me with the story of his recent foray into speed dating in Atlanta, and once I heard the story, I knew we had to post it. Show him some love & check out his recap of his night of speed dating.

Dating in Atlanta has been quite stale as of late. Granted I have been traveling a bit on the weekends, but when I have been in Atlanta, it has been the same. Contrary to what people think, due to the high ratio of women to men in Atlanta, dating here is not as easy as it is portrayed. This past weekend I got the chance to do something unique that I have not tried in my dating quest…. Speed Dating….

My goal was to go in with no expectations and just have a good time. I knew that speed dating has no script; just you and the person you are talking to.

When I arrived at the speed dating event it was interesting….first, I felt really sorry for the women…when I walked into the venue it was a chic place with a plush atmosphere and I counted, there was 33 women and 7 guys….Eventually it picked up but the stage was set.

Once we got settled, the host Brandon set the stage and the format was simple:

  • Every time the song changes, you change dates
  • No exchanging phone numbers, business cards, twitter or facebook accounts
  • Be respectful
  • Have fun
  • You are given a card and you can rate the dates and if you are on the same page (Interested, Very interested or not interested)

My pros about the event was that every woman I met for the most part was cool, jovial and open to meeting people. The event also had a demographic of career oriented women that I haven’t seen around Atlanta which was good for me.

Here is my run down of the women I “dated” and who stood out the most…The names have been changed to protect their identity…

Rachel – She was a cool woman with a great personality, a natural hairdo, and some crisp Christian Louboutin shoes. I also liked that she was a sports lover. She was questioning and challenging my Chicago Bulls! I also liked her teeth. She had a great smile and never had braces like me. I circled Very Interested.

Michelle – She had a cool vibe and actually had a cool 2012 “Michelle Obama”-esque combover. The best part about her was her conversation. She asked a lot about me and why I was single. She also discussed her dating life. It was refreshing to meet someone who was really up front all around. She also had a cool set of pearls on and I circled interested.

Angie – She was cool but not really getting the looks I thought she deserved. She was cool but not really my type, but she had a cool Halle Berry haircut.  I would set up for my friend but she had a good mouthpiece also. Laid back and funny. I actually felt less pressure when dealing with her.

Camille – She was cool actually more cooler than I expected once we started talking. She was fun, but I think she should open up a little bit more.

Jackie – Actually this was my favorite out of everybody…Out of all careers; she was a Technical Writer like me! I was shocked. I never met a woman who was cute and a technical writer! It just never happens and she had 2 of my turn ons…pearls and stockings! She was really cool and had gorgeous light brown eyes. I circled Very Interested.

Overall the event was a great one, especially since I got to be a guest and hang out. I had a blast and I have rejuvenated my dating spirit.

I checked my email a few days later and I received 2 matches so stay tuned…

So what do you guys think about MC’s experience at speed dating? Have you tried it? Would you ever try it? I’d love to hear some stories in the comments!


9 Responses to "Guest Post: Speed Dating From A Man’s Perspective"

I was there, I hoped this post would be about the event. And I believe I spoke with MC as well (UM grad, right?).
He’s a guy so of course it wasn’t horrible for him with that ratio! It was more like 4 guys, and then they grabbed 2 guys off the street!
As a woman, the ratio was an extreme disappointment. I don’t know if I’ll attempt speed-dating again.

Wow! How funny is it that one of my readers was at the event & met MC? The world is so small.

So as a woman participate, what did you think about the selection of men that were there? Did the women seem to be in more competition with each other because of the lack of men?

Well the few men that were there were good quality. The women that I were with all felt like the night was a loss; we lamented that the guys had it “easy.” With such ratios, it’s not really much of a “speed dating” event. The majority of women had nothing to do while people “dated.”

never really considered speed dating. perhaps thats because i’ve never had the opportunity to go. this seems like it would be fun. i think i would give it a try if i were afforded the opportunity.

I would definitely try speed dating if I were interested in dating right now. I think for the most part, the demographics are normally unfair. There are ALWAYS more women than men. It would be nice if it were balanced and it didn’t seem like men basically had two women to themselves.

I’m glad he had a good experience. Despite what some may think, there are some very decent women here in Atlanta who aren’t after money, cars and looks.

I’ve heard that its generally more women than men. Last summer I was at a bar that I frequent with some friends, and they were having a speed dating event in one area of the bar. There were definitely more women than men. I wonder if its because men are more likely to meet women just in the course of their normal day?

I was at the event too. I’ve done speed dating before, but there was always an equal number of women and men. I didn’t know it could exist with unequal numbers. Surprise. LOL. Anyway, I initially fell into speed dating by accident. I was at a bar and speed dating was going on at the other end and one of the hostesses thought the guys would appreciate my look so I was asked to join. It was fun. You get to talk with no real obligation, but I did get a good number of matches after!

Anyway, some friends of mine knew the host and I got three invitations to go so I went. However, my dating life is going pretty good, so when I saw all the women there with like 4 guys, I left before it started. Two of the guys were real cuties tho! 🙂

I remember that night at the bar when you first speed dated, R & I were there with you. It looked like a lot of fun.

I’ve actually been writing about my speed dating experiences on my blog…I tried speed dating for the first time in ’03 when I moved to NY. I tried it the 2nd time in Jan of this year. Since Jan I’ve done it 4 times. The company I normally go with always have a even number ratio and it’s a mixed crowd (meaning all races). The one that I went to specifically for people of color was a disappointment, there were 7 men and 15 women…normally the host would cancel the event if there is not an even number of men & women but this chick didn’t do that.

Tomorrow I will be attending a speed dating marathon. You have 50 2 minute dates!! This may seem extreme to some people but I actually think it will be fun! It was interesting that they actually had all the 50 men registered before the women. I’m sure my experience will make a great post! ha!

I never go with expectations…you’ll get your feelings hurt if you do. I have yet to meet anyone at this events that I would want to go out with on a real date…..I just go to have fun!!

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